On the *gotta do life* side of things I have walked the dog, completed a section of homework and sorted out lunch for tomorrow. The homework thing pleases me most cause I like to put that off. It doesn't get done that way.

On the side of things that I could deal with or not (still gotta live with them but...)
I set my boundaries with the annoying woman at work today. She was indeed angry. We know this is the reaction to boundaries. Which is difficult at our school cause there is nowhere for me to go to let her have her anger and not have it affect me. But i gave her as much physical space as was possible. I was nearly in tears. Why, why is this so hard? And why does she find it necessary to comment on my appearance, health, food, etc.? I don't suppose it matters in the long run. And let's face it, I will have more opportunities to practise setting boundaries.

See, my M.O. is to set my boundaries in neutral territory and then leave before the anger sets in. I do get phone calls and have to field the anger then, but, it's on the phone and there is that whole hanging up thing. And most of the people i have needed to set boundaries with have been people I really cared about having a future relationship with if they cared to. I don't really care about this woman outside of the fact that we are colleagues. So, this is virgin territory for me. I guess, in the past, I would have just put up with her and decided it didn't matter. But, it does. So, new ways of behaving must be learned.

I think I've said it before: I'm on a learning curve this year.